"I've had it before and I just need a meal plan, with it laid out and I can stick to it."

Someone said this to me the other week and it really does make my heart drop.

And I get it.

As a tasked based perfectionist - it's an easy solution to your problem.

You literally don't have to make any decision, you have to follow it and if you follow it you will get the results you want.

You don't have to think.

You don't have to feel.

Because you are doing a lot of thinking around everything else aren't you?

The washing, the school admin, the childcare, the paying the bills, the whole shebang.

So when you don't have to make a decision I can see how that's attractive.

But here's why it makes my heart drop.

Because I hear a successful, clever, intelligent woman who doesn't trust herself around food.

She is smashing the rest of her life, holding it all together, doing the best she can.

But come to food she's so disempowered.

Been told this, that and the other for years and has got so confused that she thinks the best way forward isn't to actually put that powerful mind into gear.

You already know that I'm going to tell you that these feelings are valid.

Same goes for the weight loss injections because you don't have to make decisions or think about them apart from the decision to take it.

But obviously I like to dig deeper, and the reason as to why you don't trust yourself and feel so disempowered around food.

Is because you aren't listening to that clever, assertive, intelligent mind of yours.

Years of diet culture and now following loads of accounts on social media does that to you.

However, I know that the most powerful thing you can do is listen to your mind and body.

Because when I get people to eat mindfully, to think more, to trust more and to feel more.

That's where the magic happens.

However, that bit is scary.

It's crunchy and it feels weird.

It's delayed gratification.

There's no quick fix.

It's uncomfortable and I'm not going to lie - the harder option.

However, its the most sustainable, the most rewarding when you do the work and come out the other side.

Making informed decisions around the food you eat and the quantity you eat too - is empowering.

Especially at Easter.

No more throwing away Easter Eggs.

Eating all the hot cross buns to "get them out the house".

Because it doesn't have to be like that when you repair your relationship with food.

Which if you would like to do - I am taking on 1-1 coaching slots now.

Send me a email at cara@coachingwithcara.co.uk to get started.